Dear SOS: I am always so surprised how parents put so much trust in their male relatives and friends when it comes to their childrens’ affairs.
 It is season for the parties and I have been to a number of parties now and of course the topic turns to what’s been happening in the news. The topic started off with what’s happening in the news and one thing led to another and at three different events I heard five different stories.
 A woman sponsors her family from India, and then few years later her sister gets married to a man in India. He comes to Canada and both sisters and her husband live with him until they can support themselves.
 Six months later the woman finds that her teen daughter is pregnant. The father of the child was her sister’s new husband newly from India. In another story, an eighteen years-old girl runs away from her home. She is later located living in Toronto with her mama’s twenty-six year old married son. He’s a truck driver. He left his wife and a child and ran off with his cousin. If that wasn’t bad enough, another woman told the story about how a chacha raped two of his nieces for number of years. In another story a young boy’s personality was totally changed, a happy friendly boy became temperamental, sometimes shy and other
times angry and his parents find out that he’s had been abused by his grandfather for a number of years. In another story a woman tells how her cousin’s wife ran off with cousin’s sister’s husband. In each case blind trust led to the destruction of the family in question’s lives. I learned from all this that one can’t blindly trust anyone.

Horrified in Surrey
Dear Horrified in Surrey: What you heard is not unusual these days. There are so many stories like the ones you heard. Times have changed and people need to become more alert. One can’t put blind trust in anyone. Even your closes friends and relatives can sometimes do more harm to you than a stranger can. When it comes to your children one should not put blind trust in anyone. Parents also need to be alert to the behavior of their
children. There are always signs when something disturbs the children and parents need to pick up on these changes. It doesn’t just apply to the kids even young adults sometimes become a prey. And families are destroyed and relationships are damaged forever.